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How To Find An Escort

Many people think that finding an escort and having sex with her is as easy as calling her, giving her the money, and then getting laid.

But newbies who decide to find and date an escort realize there are some unanticipated pitfalls and landmines with escorts. Some of the things they start to realize:

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  • What if she is a cop? Can I get arrested?
  • What if she robs me or her pimp beats me up?
  • Why is she asking me for my employment information?
  • Why do I get hung up on?
  • When do I give her the money?

When these thoughts start to enter your mind, you realize that the world of escorts is more complicated than you originally thought.

Well, I’m here to demystify this world and help you find an escort who will satisfy your sexual fantasies and needs.

There are five simple steps to dating an escort:

  1. Finding a good escort
  2. Preparing to call her
  3. Calling her
  4. Preparing for your date
  5. Dating her

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Step 1 – Find an escort who you are attracted to AND who is a good provider

Finding the “RIGHT” escort for you at the outset is the most important step of the process

This step is the most important in the process. Selecting a good escort will make the remaining steps a lot easier. Obviously, selecting a bad escort will make the following steps hell, and perhaps unrecoverable.

Click here for an in-depth, detailed explanation on how to find an escort.

But here are the basics. You must first look at where escorts advertise. The largest sites are:


There could be smaller regional sites in your area (and they are good resources if they exist), but the larger sites are a good place to start.

When looking at the postings, you’ll quickly find escorts who you are attracted to. But you also want to look out for possible scam escorts. Here are some warning signs to look for:

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If her picture is “too good to be true”, she probably is, but not always. Good research will reveal the truth.

  • Studio pictures – this sometimes (not always) indicates that it could be a bait and switch, where the picture is not really her
  • Multiple listings – if her listing exist in multiple cities, this could indicate a scam

If you are still concerned about your selection, here is an advanced strategy for verifying if she is a good escort or not .


Step 2: Get prepared for your call

I cannot stress this enough: the purpose of the call is to set your appointment, nothing else. A common newbie mistake is asking her questions about different sex acts during your phone call. This is a huge no-no. And if she is an undercover cop, you’re heading down an easy road of getting arrested.

For the quick, professional advise on how to NEVER get arrested, click here.


Before calling the escort, you’ll want to get three things ready:

  • Research
  • Date, time, length, and venue of the appointment
  • References



Do Your Research

Proper research is essential not just to protect yourself and to get the woman you want, but also to secure a date with her too. Not being prepared will jeopardize your changes with her (and most escorts).

Research as much as you can about your chosen woman. Most good escorts will have a website with general information and answers to commonly asked questions. With her ad, along with her website, you should find most of your questioned answered.

If you want to take an advanced approach, check with review sites for reviews of her from your fellow hobbyists. There many review sites out there, but one specific site is better than the rest. Click here for a video on exactly how I used this review sites to find an escort.


Date, time, length, and venue of the appointment

You should know the when and where of your preferred appointment, and a few alternate times if your first choice is not available. The more open your schedule is, the more likely it is that you’ll get an appointment.

Also, time is one of the elements determines the cost of the appointment. The average date is 1 hour, although spending an evening with each other is typically very enjoyable with higher end escorts.

The other two elements that determines cost is how beautiful she is and the “level of service” she provides.

If you want more detailed knowledge, download my “Expected Cost Guide”. I also give a video explanation of the various cost of escort donation fees. Download it here.





Being prepared to get verified is one of the key things to getting an appointment. But if you are a newbie with no references, this can be a challenge. But there are ways to overcome it.

This is one that tends to throw off newbies. When an escort asks for references, they are looking for one (or two) of these three things: 1) two escorts that you’ve seen in past, 2) employment information, or 3) verification credentials.

Obviously if you are a newbie, you will not have two escort references. That means you’re down to either employment information, or verification credentials.

The reason why escorts will screen you is because they want to make sure you are not a serial killer or psycho. Verification is one method women will use to protect themselves.

Click here for detailed advice on escort verification sites.


Step 3: Making the call

Sexy escort on the phone

Being calm, cool, confident, and collected is my #1 tip and strategy when calling an escort. When calling her, treat her like one of your buddies, but keep your call short.

If you’d like to see a video on how a gentleman called an escort, click here.

Calling an escort is where the rubber hits the road. Again, I cannot stress enough, the purpose of the call is to set the appointment, nothing else.

If you’ve prepared yourself enough, this should be quite simple. Call her, get the appointment, and get off the phone.

My best recommendation for this is to treat her as if she was one of your friends or buddies. Use a calm, casual, confident voice. Then get the appointment and get off the phone.

Try to make the phone call reasonably short. Do not try to engage her into a conversation, and do not ask her questions that you should already know the answer to.

Check out this video on how a gentleman called an escort. He did some things right, but also made some mistakes. Click here to watch the video.

Two-Call System

The two-call system applies to incall situations (you are going to her). Most escorts will not give you their exact location in your first phone call. Rather, they will give you an approximate location, like major cross streets. When you get close to their location, you call them again stating that you are arriving, and this is typically where they give you their exact location.

Sometimes, it may be even a three-call system. In your second call, she may give you the hotel she is staying at, but she may not give you her room number until you actually arrive.

Accept the information she gives you in the initial phone calls. Do not force her to give an exact location. Doing so could cause her to cancel the appointment.

Remember, the purpose of the call is to set the appointment. In this video, I will show you how this gentleman called an escort. I will also share with you some mistakes he made so you can avoid them when calling an escort. Click here to watch the video.


Step 4: Prepare for your date

Preparation is slightly different depending on whether your date with the escort is an incall or an outcall. Incall is less work than outcall because in outcall, you are the host. I will cover incall first.


Incall Preparation

Have Fresh Breath

Fresh breath and a clean body is an absolute must! Brush your teeth, use mouthwash, and take a shower. Having good hygiene will get you maximum mileage with her!

The most important thing you should do when preparing yourself for your date is to have great hygiene. Take a shower before you go to your date. Brush your teeth and use mouthwash. Smelling good and having fresh breath is not only considerate, but will also get you the most mileage from your escort, now and in the future.

Next, make sure you have good directions and you know where you are going. Leave yourself plenty of time to get to your appointment. You will want to arrive 10-15 minutes early.

Outcall Preparation

Hygiene is still the most important. I covered it in the incall preparation, and it’s exactly the same here. However, also you are the host, so you’ll want to have a few things for your escort guest.

First, tidy up the room, making sure it is clean and not cluttered. This should be no problem if you just checked in or if room service recently cleaned.

Leave a fresh towel and toiletries for your escort guest, making sure these toiletries are unused and unopen.

Lastly, offer some refreshments. You can go as fancy as you want, but simply having bottled water on ice is more than enough to be a good host.


Step 5: The date


The date is the easiest part. But there are two areas where newbies make mistakes.


Never talk about the money. Never ever. Place the “donation” in a blank envelope and place it where she can easily see it.

One of these areas is the donation. Place your donation for her in a blank envelope, and set it in an inconspicuous spot. The two best places are either the bathroom counter, or on top of a desk or dresser. Be sure to make it easy for the escort to spot. You do not want to hand the money to her directly! The reason for this is the money is intended as a donation for her time. Handing the money to her could legally interpreted as money in exchange for a sex act. Click here for more information on “is prostitution legal and is escorting legal?”.

Now, on getting things started. The escort will know that you are nervous, so usually she will strip an article of clothing first. I suggest using the mirror technique. When she takes an article of clothing off, you take off that same article of clothing off. Soon you’ll find yourself having the time of your life, and next time, you won’t be a newbie any longer.



I hope you got some great information from my article. The next step is to learn the most common mistakes most men make when finding, calling, and going on an appointment with an escort.

Avoiding these mistakes will go a long way to your personal safety, your success, and your experience with an escort.

You may have instant access to my “Avoid the 10 Mistakes Most Men Make with Escorts”. Click here to download it instantly.

Good luck with your endeavor with escorts! It’s a great life to have the ability to spend time with beautiful women who really know how to treat a man.

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